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Posted March 15, 2018 11:19:03 What’s the best way to tell your potential partner that you are gay or bi?

Here are five suggestions: 1.

If you’re a straight man, be prepared to be very, very specific about what you want.

If he or she seems comfortable with your sexuality, be open about it. 2.

If it’s the first time you’ve had sex, don’t hesitate to ask him or her to stop.

“It’s just going to be awkward,” says Anne Thompson, a Toronto-based writer and the author of “The Good Girl Guide to Gay Sex.”

“You don’t want to make them uncomfortable, you don’t really want to get into an argument.”


If the sex seems like a total waste of time, or it feels uncomfortable, ask to stop immediately.

If she refuses, try another one.

If that doesn’t work, try saying something like, “I can’t do this.”

If she doesn’t listen, try telling her, “You’re going to feel bad.”


If they’re a woman, try not to mention her name.

“I’m not going to get my hopes up that she’s straight,” says Thompson.

If someone is gay and you don- t want to be seen as being too open about your sexuality with her, she says, just don’t mention her.


If, despite your best efforts, they still insist that you stop, it might be time to seek help.

“The fact that she says ‘I can’ doesn’t mean you’re right,” says Dr. Susanne Schaffner, an OB-GYN and the executive director of the Canadian AIDS Society.

“That means she might be telling you she’s gay or not.”


What you should know about gay dating and sex Before you begin dating, it’s important to know about the differences between gay and straight dating.


There are no straight people in gay dating 2.

Dating is a big step in the right direction for many people 3.

Gay dating is different from straight dating 4.

Dating isn’t about sex It’s about friendship, respect, commitment and honesty 5.

The first time a gay man and a straight woman meet, they may have no idea they’re dating, says Schaffer.

“People who are gay don’t have to do this [date] on the first date.”

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